That's fine if it's what you and your partner are into—we all like what we like, and that doesn't have to mean those tastes are more specific than "having sex in a bed in a limited set of positions. But if you sometimes think, Hm, maybe there's a few ways to adjust these limited positions from time to time , or otherwise have even the slightest impulse to switch things up, you have options. There are plenty of lo-fi ways to tweak your sex routine in order to add a little novelty to the basics that you know and love without heading into full freaky-deaky territory all of time. Some of these methods don't even involve actual sex-having—they're just ways to shift how you and your partner think and talk about sex and turn each other on. Others definitely have to do with actual sex-having. Here are some ideas to make the regular sex you're into feel just a little bit more adventurous.
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Vanilla sex or conventional sex is used to describe what a culture regards as standard or conventional sexual behavior. Different cultures, subcultures, and individuals have different ideas about what constitutes this type of sex. Often it is interpreted as sex that does not involve such elements as BDSM , kink , or fetish activities. Among heterosexual couples in the Western world, vanilla sex often refers to the missionary position. Among homosexual men it sometimes implies that the activity is non-insertive i.
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Recently I was interviewed for an article in VICE about what vanilla sex means and whether people are having it. The combination of these two means that the kind of sex people are expected to aspire to has a broader range, and includes some things that would previously have been thought of as kinky. For example most sex advice books include light bondage, role-play, and sensation play these days. However there is still a strong sense that these things are an add-on to sex rather than sex itself which is still generally seen as penis-in-vagina intercourse. Queer people can use terms like vanilla, normal, mundane or muggle to describe non-queer people.
In recent weeks, I have been reflecting on sex and desire. The article is here and here is MJ Barker writing about it too. For me, vanilla is not a negative term but rather describes sex that is perhaps gentler than kink and BDSM influence sex and which focusses more on penis in vagina and mutual orgasm. It, perhaps, seems less playful but does not have to be.